Friday, July 31, 2009

I'm Going Back to Cali

Hey everyone....I'm going to take a small break from the blog. I'm gonna be in sunny Oakland, California visiting my mother, sister, and niece. Its gonna feel so good to go home and be with my family. On my next post I have pics and all that. So until then I'm out! Peace and Love everyone.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Way a Man Treats His Mother...And His Wife

Next, ask him about his relationship with his mother. It’s the first relationship a man has with a woman, and if he has a good track record with her, then chances are he knows how to treat a woman with respect and has some kind of idea of how to profess, provide, and protect not only a woman but a potential family too. I don’t know a boy living whose mother isn’t beloved. We learn to protect her and provide for her; we learn about the basic core of love for a woman from her. Indeed, if a man is at odds with his mother, it’s a safe bet that he’s going to be at odds with you. If you any part of “Man, me and mother? We just don’t get along…” in his answer, erase his number and texts from your phone and keep it moving.

What you just read was an excerpt from Steve Harvey’s “Act Like A Lady, and Think Like A Man”. Ladies if you haven’t had a chance to check this book out, then please don’t hesitate…go buy it and read it. This book gives a very profound incite on why us men act the way we do. The book could also be very helpful to your current relationship. Now back to the subject. About a month ago at work, I heard these two sisters talking about some woman who was dealing with a man that was downright disrespectful. This guy would talk to her all crazy, emotionally abuse her, and even physically abused the young woman. Throughout their conversation one of the young women kept saying that this guy addresses his wife as if she “just some random hoodlum on the street and not like his wife”. ( I heard all of this while eating my lunch being nosy lol). So as I’m reading this book, I couldn’t’ help but to immediately think about this young woman that my co-workers were referring to.

The statement that Steve Harvey gave could not be any more accurate (well at least in my case ). Growing up my mother and sister was all that I had, and my mother made it a responsibility everyday to tell me to respect and love women. Her exact words were “you don’t show love to a woman by hitting her like some nigga or talking to her as if she was your slave. Show respect and love and you will get the same in return” Those were the words she spoke when we found out that my cousin Charlene was getting abused by her boyfriend of 6 years. I adore my mother because of what she sacrificed for me when I was younger, and I would NEVER, EVER think about disrespecting my mother in any form. I’m not the best boyfriend in the world, but I will admit that I do a damn good job of showing my shorty that I care. Because my basic core of love was established by the example my mother provided to me at an early age. My mother use to always say take care and look after your wife, they way you do for me. That type of mindset has stuck with me to this day, and no matter what happens I cannot see myself talking to a lady like she beneath me. I do know that there are so WEAK women out there that will accept a man that will address them anyway they want because of the fear that if that guy leaves she want have anything but it’s not acceptable. But the part that baffles me, is that (some) women think that type of behavior is okay, and they stay with that abusive man. Maybe this is just my philosophy but every woman needs to be treated with the upmost respect. I had to learn the hard way.

I was eleven years old, and my sister (who was 16 at the time )was pissing me off because she kept turning the damn channel when I was trying to watching Jordan and the Chicago Bulls play. We exchanged verbal assaults back and forth and until I got fed up and I uttered the words “give me back the remote “BITCH”. My sister called my mother downstairs and told her what I said. My mothers walked over to me, tightened her fist and punched me dead in my mouth. She went for a second swing and I ducked out the way, but my mother made me apologize to my sister…and from that day on, I vowed never to repeat the same mistake.

The way a man treats his mother really does have a lot of influence on how he will treat his girlfriend/wife. I can’t speak for all men, but most good men, that treat their women with the type of love and respect from the start…that man probably views his mother as the best thing on earth. Ladies leave there is NO good reason to stay with a man that disrespects, abuse and/or belittles you. Find that king that is willing to treat you like a queen.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Thoughts From The Mind of Darrius

Joe Jackson needs to sit his ass down somewhere. Since Michael Jackson passed away, I done seen this man TV more than anyone. Capitalizing on your son’s death is probably not the most moral thing to do. I understand that you want to get your story out but my goodness. He talks every chance he gets and he is the only in the family bumping his gums. I haven’t heard Tito or Janet speak one time.

Michael Vick is a free man now…He paid his debt to society. Now give that man a football and let him earn his living. But the NFL is so wrong. Michael Vick can kill a dog, and the he is the worst person in the world. Big Ben can allegedly sexually assault a woman and NFL try to sweep it under the rug. What is going on in the world? Maybe a bit of racism? Well you be the judge?

True Story: I’m in the club on Saturday and I was dancing with this girl. The girl was cute and all and I noticed her staring at from a far after we were dancing. So later she walks up to me and asked me for my number….Listening my fellow bloggers, her breath stank so awful. I didn’t want to be rude, so I told the girl that I was in happy committed relationship, then I reached in my pocket and offered her some gum. I mean I would be wrong to let her continue to walk around with road kill in her mouth.

So I finally heard all of the new Maxwell record, and I mean its okay, but I keep comparing it to “Urban Hang Suite” and its kinda hard to top that effort. I’m happy he’s back in all but next time he should consider giving his fans that waited 5 years for his new album more than 9 songs.

So Chris Brown finally issued a public apology for his role in the incident with Rhianna. To me, it’s as if he is plotting his comeback, but honestly I just don’t know I can support his music. I have no respect for any man to put his hands on a woman….yeah I know he is innocent until proven guilty, but if it turns out that in fact he did do that beat on that girl, we should view Chris Brown in the same negative light that we view R. Kelly… and not support his music. Just my opinion. The apology was great, it just wasn’t enough.

Why is Gucci Mane so popular all of a sudden? He is horrible.

So I’m dying to get a new tattoo….but I’m not sure what I want to get. I’m probably gonna get one when I go to cali…

I think this world would be very boring without Haters...

Speaking of which My vacation begins July 31st. Me and Shorty are gonna take a trip to see my mother, sister, and niece. Before my girl gets a ring…she must get approval from the most important people in my life.

How do you tell a co-worker that he/she is getting on your DAMN NERVES? I need some suggestions.

If the world were to end today, the first thing I would grab is....probably my Itouch lol. I would go crazy without it.

Have you seen the Tiny and Toya show on BET? I’m sorry but that has to be the dumbest show to air on that station since Hell Date. And WTF has done Tiny done to her face? it’s like plastic surgery went terribly wrong.

On that note, I can’t wait for the Neffe and Frankie show…. MAN DOWN!!!!!!! HOLLA!!!!!!

Ladies….How long would you wait for your man to ask you for your hand in marriage?

Is 69 a played out position? LOL just curious.

I hop out the bed and turn my swag on….what about you?

I want some Cheesecake from the Factory.

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Fear of Success

A part of me feels like at 24 years young, I haven’t even tapped my potential yet. It’s as if my ceiling is unlimited, but I’m a little afraid of the person I will become. To sum it all up, I am afraid of my own success. Years ago I would have never imagine that I would be in a position in my life where I was comfortable in my situation, I actually have a career, I have a wonderful relationship with a very beautiful woman and most of all, yet and still I have some sort of void that I need to fill. The fear of what I am capable of becoming goes through my mind everyday in every decision that I make.

I have a huge amount of self confidence in my ability to do all things, and I have dreams and goals to fulfill just like the next man/woman, but I’ve always been apprehensive in making the proper steps forward….until yesterday. Yesterday I told myself that enough was enough and It was finally time for me to put my fears a side and reach for the stars. So last night I applied for my MBA at Xavier University (Cincinnati, OH).

Please do not get me mistaken, having a number of degrees attached to my name is not going to determine how successful I will be in life, but I do know that obtaining my MBA I will position myself for greater things in the future. I refuse to allow myself to become complacent and just accept what I have now, I want to do more. I am striving to be the perfect example of what success should be, I am taking the challenge head on in hopes that my story can inspire someone to do better. No more fears, no more saying I can’t….the time is now and success is here.